The nervous system gets aroused, causing one to get adrenaline in the form of "rapid heartbeat, shortness of breath, and sensations of excitement that are often similar to sensations associated with danger".
Other physical symptoms include "blood pressure go[ing] up a little, the skin...flush[ing], the face and ears...turn[ing] red and...[a] feeling of weakness in the knees".
I have read through over 40 pages of archives from your blog, and I can’t find the answer to this one. He really likes me a lot and has been clear about that. –TJ Dear TJ, Thanks for the important question, and for giving me a platform to clear up some misconceptions about what I teach.
And he is great: cute, smart, successful, shares my religion and interests, we both value family a lot, and he is treating me like gold. For those of you who are new to this blog, one of my pet topics is the concept that chemistry is all too often an illusion.
"Chemistry comes into play the moment you realize that you find that person appealing and attractive to you in a way that generates desire."How, then, can we help the process along if we happen to meet a great guy who might not be our typical type?
Unfortunately, Greer says, you can't force chemistry into play on the fly.
"You can't manufacture the stomach butterflies and racing heart rate when you see a person—that has to come naturally," says Greer.
"If so, let the relationship continue to grow and see if the chemistry grows stronger," suggests Greer.Now, I have been dating this guy (pre-med, kind of nerdy, logical, strategic type of guy) for two years. He is smart, consistent, predictable and incredibly faithful. He has been very intentional with my parents and with his desire to love and cherish only me. There is no "magic," and I feel I could logically live without him if we broke up.I love him very much, but we do not have the same "chemistry" that I shared with the first person. I just saw the first guy again this week and was reminded again how strong the chemistry is between us.This is why I have long advocated putting compatibility up on the same pedestal as chemistry, and perhaps elevate it even higher.Simply put: A relationship with a 7 chemistry and a 10 compatibility is a happy marriage.While the actual definition of chemistry, its components, and its manifestations are fairly vague, this is a well documented concept.