Both you and the person you are dating should desire Christ more than you desire anything else.When we love Christ first, we see love differently, and can love the person we are with, in extraordinary ways.The system today's young men and women have inherited for finding and marrying a future spouse leaves a lot to be desired.We often hear complaints from readers about the confusion, hurt and sexual sin they've encountered despite their best intentions.
At Focus on the Family, we've offered a range of resources and expert advice bringing biblical principles to bear in this area. If you are dating someone who doesn’t have a personal relationship with Christ, you are playing with fire. Don’t let the relationship progress to a physical point and then hope you can cut it off later. You need all the help you can get in today’s world. Do you depend on Him to meet your needs of love and security? If you can’t stand the person but have a great physical relationship, rethink the relationship. If one person is uncomfortable with any type of physical expression, don’t do it. Don’t push a date to do anything that makes him/her feel uncomfortable. Physical touch/intimacy should correspond with commitment. This doesn’t mean anything goes if you are engaged. What is your motivation -- power and control, gratifying your own ego, meeting a selfish need, or genuine affection? If you feel convicted of certain behaviors, stop doing them. You must decide before you go on the date what your limits will be.