(Um, probably don’t do this, you guys.) It wasn’t like I was stupid. But I didn’t have enough experience or wisdom (as opposed to intelligence) to completely understand what I was getting into.I thought I was totally prepared to deal with the daily realities of having a boyfriend who was older than me by a decade-plus, which turned out to be less than correct.Many women cannot entertain the thought of dating a man five years older than they are let alone getting married to one.A woman thinks it is gross even if they have relatives married to older men.I tell her no way, you cant leave me to go on without out..I don't want to live in this world without her in nit and so we jokingly have a suicide pact.
But she tells me she expects to go first because she has hereditary medical issues and most women in her family die relatively young.
Up until a few months ago, if any older man had come up to me and hit on me, I would have instantly walked away.
I wouldn't have given him the time of day, or night for that matter.
I just try to be sure I am leaving our finances and whatever else I can do set up in such a way that she would be taken care of if I were gone.
Of course there is the likelihood that one partner will be left alone and broken hearted.