So while I can’t personally identify with guys who are shut-off from love, I can acknowledge one thing: they keep me in business.
Even when I was in my ten-year-online-dating-slut phase, I always wanted to fall in love.
Having a relationship with emotionally unavailable women will never be easy.
This type of women might make a token effort at relationships, but the minute you show too much of an interest, she will be out the door faster than the speed of light.
For a relationship to work, a soul connection must go both ways.
Even if the intuitive bond you feel is authentic, it can remain unrealized. They are married or in a relationship with someone else. They have one foot on the gas pedal, one foot on the brake. They are emotionally distant, shut down, or can’t deal with conflict. They’re mainly interested in sex, not relating emotionally or spiritually. They are practicing alcoholics, sex addicts, or substance abusers 6.
A confusing part of being attracted to unavailable, commitment-phobic people is that the emotional or sexual chemistry can feel so strong.
You accept behavior that you’d never tolerate in friends. The electricity can feel so incredible and rare, you may mistake intensity for intimacy.
She might tell you she is looking for a relationship, but as soon as the relationship starts showing signs of getting serious, she will pull away and leave you wondering what on earth you did wrong.
Seth Meyers is back and blogging about an issue plaguing many women.
Here are his thoughts about unavailable men — specifically how to spot them AND stop dating them!
One of the most common problems that plagues romantic relationships is the tendency to repeat the same negative patterns over and over again.
In fact, one of the most common patterns women repeat is falling for emotionally unavailable men, a pattern I call “emotional chasing.” Please understand, however, that the chasing isn’t literal.