Now, don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing bad in finding your man’s height swoon-worthy.
Yet, when I think about why I thought tall guys were more attractive, I found that it boiled down to one thing: my own insecurities. While I didn’t exactly have an eating disorder, I can’t recall a time during my adolescence when I wasn’t on some sort of diet.
Yup, classic stories about that involves heightism. Some people won’t mind if it’s chocolate or vanilla. Some just look out for personality first instead of looks. If you get rejected by women who are taller than you, please know that it’s not YOU. You’re simply not their type, maybe it’s your personality, perhaps it’s your height. As I shared earlier, the taller girl I dated loved my personality. There is a feeling of protection that I get from a taller man, real or imagined. I stopped forcing myself to go out with men because it’s the politically correct thing to do. I had opened myself up to this man that turned out to be perfect even though on the outside, being so short, it didn’t seem like he would have been my type. I could wax on for pages about how wonderful he is to me and how much I enjoy having him in my life.
Before we begin: Here are a couple of fun facts about my previous dating life. We dated because she thought I was confident and funny. Okay, that may not be the best analogy, I’m sure you understand where I’m coming. Some just look out for personality first, instead of looks. Once, I attempted to date a shorter man, who was 5’6″ on a good day. Because I was at a time in my life where I thought that I could not be so shallow as to date a man, or not, simply because of his height. First, I want to say that it took me a while to overcome the height issue even though I continued dating him and several other men until I settled on him.
But while women say they have a "type"—they love bearded gingers or get off on guys in glasses—they don't filter out man who doesn't meet those specific physical criteria. It's a sweeping prejudice masquerading as sexual preference.
The odd thing about this letter is that it was from a man, and he was outraged on behalf of men. He was quoting from a dating feature in which the woman expressed a preference for tall men. He contended the newspaper would never allow a man to say something so discriminatory about his taste in women, in reference to a physical characteristic about which they are sensitive.But then he held his hands out, palms toward me, thumbs parallel to the floor and touching at the tips.“If her butt is wider than this,” he said, proudly, “I’m out of there.” So, no parity.If you're one of those women, you may need to examine your priorities when dating a shorter guy.You may also need to focus on what you do like about him (his personality and good looks), rather than what you may not like about him (his height).BEVERLY HILLS, CA - JANUARY 11: Eniko Parrish and actor/comedian Kevin Hart attend the 72nd Annual Golden Globe Awards at The Beverly Hilton Hotel on January 11, 2015 in Beverly Hills, California.