As a counselor who has worked with over a thousand couples, I’m still shocked by the resistance that comes from a simple suggestion of dating your spouse. There are hundreds of books, seminars, conferences, youtube videos, and articles detailing the benefits of regularly dating your spouse.
Yet many still see this as a waste of time, energy and money.
They need you and your spouse to be great parents and great lovers.
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My previous blog ("Should You Date Your Ex-Spouse," dated 1/17/11) made the audacious proposal for considering dating an ex-spouse, since the likelihood of strong positive feelings when getting married could create a positive basis for a renewed relationship, if both parties have matured and stopped blaming each other.
Dating an ex-spouse should not be simply a response to loneliness, matter of convenience and/or lack of alternatives.
In the beginning, the reason for dating is to get to know someone better to see if this is a good fit.
I found myself constantly second-guessing if Kyle was “the one”.
Consider this passage: “When the Lord restored the fortunes of Zion, we were like those who dream. But this year, our entire focus has changed to treasuring each other. It’s not overtly discussed in scripture, and those living somewhere between single and married often ask us for advice.
My tendency is to wait until the last minute, buy something to make up for lost time, and hope Selena feels loved. So, I figured it was time to write a post specifically for those who are in serious dating relationships, or want to learn principles for dating when they meet that special someone. Sure, we’ve been out to dinner and done many activities in the name of pursuing each other, but we haven’t been as intentional about it as we would’ve liked.
The best explanation I’ve heard is that dating prior to marriage is the equivalent of an elementary education of a person. Rather, it should be just beginning with a desire to have a Ph. Marriage requires work both individually and as a couple.
While there is no quick fix, dating is an excellent place to start.