Ken has led hundreds of workshops on intimacy and spirituality for thousands of participants.
He has taught at Columbia University, the Omega Institute, Iona College, Rowe Conference Center, and the Garrison Institute.
It’s setting up two or three Tinder dates a week and, chances are, sleeping with all of them, so you could rack up 100 girls you’ve slept with in a year.”He says that he himself has slept with five different women he met on Tinder—“Tinderellas,” the guys call them—in the last eight days. ”“We don’t know what the girls are like,” Marty says.“And they don’t know us,” says Alex.
Dan and Marty, also Alex’s roommates in a shiny high-rise apartment building near Wall Street, can vouch for that. “She works at—” He says the name of a high-end art auction house. And yet a lack of an intimate knowledge of his potential sex partners never presents him with an obstacle to physical intimacy, Alex says.
After being single for many years, my friend William is now in a great marriage. He finally accepted he had to go to gatherings with people who shared his passions.
He said to me, "Ken, I'd come home from work and just want to turn on the TV and relax at home.
They are Dan, Alex, and Marty, budding investment bankers at the same financial firm, which recruited Alex and Marty straight from an Ivy League campus.
The tables are filled with young women and men who’ve been chasing money and deals on Wall Street all day, and now they’re out looking for hookups.Going to events filled with strangers is an awkward thing to do. But if you really want a good relationship, take my advice: Get out of the house—and don't make a bar your first choice.It's immeasurably harder than surfing the web in your comfy T-shirt. If you're looking for the person who will become "home" for you, start by looking in the best places.Whether it’s where I’m eating, where I’m traveling or, God forbid, something I’m buying, like a lot of people in my generation—those in their 20s and 30s—I feel compelled to do a ton of research to make sure I’m getting every option and then making the best choice.If this mentality pervades our decisionmaking in so many realms, is it also affecting how we choose a romantic partner?The steps I describe in this post and in my book will not only lead you toward real love; they will also enrich your entire life, because they are the skills of true intimacy.