Should my courtship techniques be the same as when I was in my 20s? Question from Randi: What do you think about long-distance relationships? They take a lot of attention, by e-mail, by phone, sacrificing money because the cost can become difficult. Taking a walk, for example, can put a lot of pressure on two people who have just met. Question from Jeannie from Cleveland: My 22-year-old son lives in the house and I want to date. You might meet your early dates outside the house, or not bring them to the house unless the relationship is becoming more important. I don't think it's fair, but it's probably true that gray hair is a signal to men that a woman is older and he may or may not like her ability to embrace her own aging in that way. There are also sites that are primarily about friendship or finding someone to do things with. However, if you are conservative about sexuality, try and date someone who is also conservative about sexuality, and wants a deeper commitment first.Question: I am a 32-year-old man, married for 4 years. However, I have this addiction to go online on dating sites and chat with women (irrespective of their age), get their attention and make them fall for my charm.Once done, I lose interest and start looking for other women/girls.Being online becomes a priority, to the detriment of real-life relationships.The counseling center at the University of Rochester offers a useful checklist to help people with cyber sex addiction, and their friends and families, to recognize the problem.Although many seem as if they are misspelled, grammatically incorrect or confusing, texting abbreviation and texting acronyms are commonly used and are meant to expedite communications by shortening them so that the user doesn't have to spell out phrases, expressions or sentences.
That said, I know people who had HUGE distances between them and survived that and ended up committed and together.
Others, though, spend so much time on cyber sex that their lives and relationships suffer.
Cyber sex addiction has the same characteristics as any other addiction. A person with addiction to cyber sex feels cravings for an online "fix" much like an alcoholic craves a drink.
There has been no impact on my married life whatsoever, but of late I have been thinking whether this is healthy or should I try to refrain from it (no matter how much ever I have earlier tried)? - Answer by Dr Parul Tank: Internet addiction can be of various forms, and going to online dating sites is one of them.
This is unhealthy as one is preoccupied and obsessed with being online and chatting.