One reason why people stay in unhealthy relationships is the fear of being alone.One reason for this is because you haven’t developed a best-friend relationship with yourself.For privacy, she asked not to use her full name, and her ex asked not to be named at all.* * *They met when Lauren, her middle name, was in her mid-20s and her ex was nearly 30. They had run in the same circles for years, but when he moved to New York for work, they reconnected. With degrees from prestigious universities, he looked great on paper. He even planned a romantic weekend at the beach and took Lauren to Costa Rica.But before long, Lauren said, he began making obnoxious comments, boasting about his ex-girlfriends and saying things like, “I could walk down Central Park West and get any girl I wanted,” Lauren said.The study done at Oakland University found that people who stayed friends with an ex post-relationship exhibited “Dark Triad” traits, which include narcissism, psychopathy and Machiavellianism.
According to a recent study, if you stay friends with your ex you might just be a psychopath or a narcissist.You can pretend to put on a smile and talk about surface level things like your favorite Netflix TV show, but having those underlying issues will always be in the back of your mind. It’s always an emotional decision that leaves someone really GD hurt.And if you stay friends, that love you once shared doesn’t just go away.Lauren began to see the way he treated her wasn’t okay. She grew up with happily married, supportive parents.She devised a move-out plan: She would return to her hometown for a while and find a new job. She has an Ivy-League education, a black belt in tae kwon do, and experience working with domestic-violence survivors. Lauren believes she fell prey to a common cycle: Abuse shatters self-esteem, and poor self-esteem keeps people in toxic relationships.Try to reach a place where you actually enjoy your own company.