How much time do you have before you need to make a move?Charnas says there’s no set timeframe for this, but it’s a good idea to take stock of your own feelings and why this particular “I love you” made you feel uncomfortable.“If you do and you don’t mean it, you’re introducing dishonesty into your relationship,” Anderson says.“To outright lie is a horrible idea.”Of course, your S. is going to want to hear those three little words back at some point—something that becomes painfully obvious when they saying them to you.We know that saying it, to some extent, is a demonstration of our commitment to her and that we’re not going anywhere. If you say it first, then it’s like you’re forcing that implied commitment, in a way.
The reason being is that to us, the saying of it isn’t a big deal in it of itself.
In second place was ‘within six months’ (14%), followed by ‘within a month’ (13%). That’s fast, even by Love Island standards (you’ll need to spell someone’s name out of toast to get that kind of commitment).
But there are also a few of us sad souls who have never felt the warm embrace of love (7% said they’d never been in love, while 3% said they’d never a partner that they’re in love), and others who like to take things to slow (6% said the earliest they’d ever said ‘I love you’ was a year in).
In other words, to the grand majority of guys, he’s happy if the relationship is good. That’s not to say that guys don’t care, it’s just that if the relationship is going well in every way, we’re pretty much satisfied.
The reason we say, “I love you,” to a woman is because we know it matters to her.